Friday, May 4, 2012

#42 - Life, The Universe, and How To Not Talk To Girls

My darlings, file this under "shitty ways to start a BDSM relationship."

SpankhappyRomeo: you need to be

 The Snob: I need to be what?

 SpankhappyRomeo: spanked

The Snob: Is that so?
The Snob: And what brings you to this supposition?

SpankhappyRomeo: you sis
SpankhappyRomeo: did

The Snob: How so?

SpankhappyRomeo: you are telling me now

The Snob: I'm pretty sure I'm not saying any such thing.
The Snob: Please support your hypothesis with evidence.

SpankhappyRomeo: you would have clicked block by now if i was wrong

The Snob: You assume so.

SpankhappyRomeo: you are proving me correct

The Snob: Not really, no.

SpankhappyRomeo: then go away and don't reply

The Snob: *patpat* have fun trying to play dom. I hope it works out for you some day. 

SpankhappyRomeo: you replied
SpankhappyRomeo: why?

The Snob: See, here's the thing about how a dynamic of domination/submission works properly: the sub has to actually give over the power of choice and direction to the dom. You can't presume submission. You can't assume intention that isn't stated.
The Snob: All that you accomplish with that manner of approach is getting unsatisfactory subs who don't really understand what they want, or pissing up the subs who DO know what they want. 

SpankhappyRomeo: you apparently have a rule structure that needs to be followed
SpankhappyRomeo: how has that worked for you?

The Snob: Quite well, actually. I've negotiated several quite satisfying relationships with folks who understand and respect boundaries and limitations.

SpankhappyRomeo: and i was right

The Snob: So has this been working for you?

SpankhappyRomeo: you have so far been a waste of time

The Snob: Only because you lack the self control to step away or the awareness to recognize the value of mutually negotiated boundaries.

SpankhappyRomeo: ah
SpankhappyRomeo: nope

The Snob: Yup.

SpankhappyRomeo: as you wish
SpankhappyRomeo: you apparently know everything

The Snob: No, I don't know everything. But I know what works for me, and also what is a generally accepted structure for the negotiation of a trusting kink-friendly relationship.

SpankhappyRomeo: yeah
SpankhappyRomeo: whatever

The Snob: I wish you the best of luck in finding what you seek.

SpankhappyRomeo: no, you don't

The Snob: Yes, I do.

SpankhappyRomeo: yeah

The Snob: You're not going to find it with me, and that's okay.